How to avoid divorce

The best way to avoid Divorce is to know yourself, your quirks, your neuroses, habits and to also know those things about your partner.

Don't try to change the other person.

Have your own dreams and goals and make sure you know the dreams and goals of your partner.

Be a giver - not a taker.

Don't keep score. Give 100% willingly.

Focus on your strengths - not each other's weaknesses. You do what you are good at and let the other person do what they are good at to maximize the relationship and partnership.

Never criticize, condemn or complain.

Set joint goals often and discuss them regulary so that you know where you are headed.

Have some sort of a Spiritual Background so that you treat the marriage with respect.

Learn the differences between the way men and women do things, plan, process information, their needs, etc. Then work within those boundaries instead of either ignoring them or being in conflict with them.

Know that relationships are cyclical in that people continually change and things never stay as they were.

Be willing to change and look for opportunities to grow all the time.

Stay in shape.

Treat your wife like your girlfriend or your husband like your boyfriend.

Have a date night.

Bottom line: A good marriage takes hard work to maintain it. It takes more work to improve it. If you don't work at it consistently, then it will fall apart and decay like a house or car that receives no maintenance or care.

Find these self-help books and read them and apply the tips:

Fit to be Tied

The Art of Understanding your Mate

Your Personality Tree

If only he knew